Jumana

Motherhood confers upon a woman the responsibility of raising a child. This process also changes the way in which she is perceived in society and at her workplace. It can necessitate her to take more than available leave options, and job security can be at risk. Significant social and personal adjustments are necessary to cope with such a situation. A working mother, especially one who has the good fortune to be able to balance her home and work, enjoys the stimulation that a job or career provides. She develops the ability of raising a useful member of society and at the same time gains financial independence. Along with motherhood, work adds to the completeness of being a woman.And one such women is Jumana, without her the whole mom who inspire me series would be incomplete. She is bright , smart and bubbly and her character radiates in her daughter little miss Aidah . She is also my very first friend that I made in the blogging world , her blog doesn’t just include mommy stuff , but also amazing food reviews , latest beauty and tech trends , but the most eye catching thing on her blog is pictures of her little one in the most amazing expressions , she is my version of the ” Fun Parent “.

1.What was your idea behind starting a blog and how do you think your blog has evolved now ? 

My idea was actually to just share a few important details about useful kids products and medicines and everything kids related as i was following few blogs like @mommyzdiaries and it was really helpful. It started from this and then I started going to events and I actually got to meet the blogging world but I have always been rarely active with the blogging crowd due to my full time work and I would prefer it to be this way and not enter the race as I really don’t consider this as a way for income.

 

What is your biggest parenting success ? 

Making Aidah independent in whatever she does. I always been very dependent and wanted to her start doing every thing on her own from wearing clothes to eating food to cleaning herself etc

What is your biggest parenting failure ? 

Theres definitely so many failures according to me but biggest failure is not having a proper sleep routine and not able to make her sleep in her room.

How do you take a negative comment to a positive post ? 

I haven’t experienced it yet, but I would just prefer to stay silent to a negative comment and not brag about it and take it further.

Explain why you post pictures of your kids or why you don’t ? 

I post pictures of Aidah as I’m totally ok with it, people speak of evil eyes, I do believe in it too but I don’t really post about my daughters food or things that concern me.

What are your top 5 achievements in life ? 

My family

My work life

My Blog

There are so many things I’m still yet to achieve too 🙂

How much time in a week do you spend on writing and maintaining your blog ? 

I rarely get time to spend on my blog, it’s most Instagram stories and post these days.

Your top 5 child products must haves ? 

Wetwipes (pampers or pureborn), Tommi tippie bib, camelbak water bottle, fine diapers.

Describe your best day as a mom . 

When Aidah eats well and sleeps early and home is not messy too.

So do follow her journey on the links below

https://instagram.com/workingmommyzinstadiariez?igshid=14oe0supdbeff

https://workingmommyzinstadiariez.wordpress.com/

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The Women who Inspired me the Most.

In my women who inspire me series I couldn’t have left my mother out of this series , she is the first women who has been inspiring me over the years but it just took some time to understand it.In the 27 years of my life , now that i am no longer a child but an adult with a toddler , i have friends whose mothers have passed. I have heard my friends say that they never truly appreciated their mothers until it was too late to tell them.

And Alhamdulliah, I am still blessed with a Mother who is Alive. I have learnt to appreciate her more each day. My mother does not change , but i do. As time has passed i have become older and wiser , I realized that its so difficult to speak these words in her presence , but they flow easily as I type.

So how does one child begin to thank their mother for life itself ?For the love, the patience , and just so much hard work that they have put into raising a child?.For running behind a toddler, for understanding mood swings of a teen, for tolerating a college student who knows to back talk for everything? For waiting for the day when a child realizes how wise their mother really is ? For being ready with advise when seeking one? Or for not saying ” I told you so ,” when she could have uttered those words dozens of times? For essentially being herself – loving, thoughtful and forgiving?.

i don’t know how , except ask Almighty to bless her and keep her happy as she deserves and help me live up to my mothers expectations. I wish that I will be as good as a mother in my child’s eyes as I see my mother. Its never too late , appreciate your mothers and shower them with love that they deserve from you .

Amanda Dias

Life is something that I have always believed to be a river that constantly flows, never stops or slows. It has those straight, normal, and peaceful times, but it has rough times with twists and turns. I think everyone knows this, but some people have worse experiences than others. Those experiences cannot be avoided and have to be faced. Everyone always faces those experiences differently as they come. The ones that face the experiences with the bright hearts and their heads held high are those that inspire me every single day to keep going. And one such lady who inspires me is Amanda , the mother behind the blog @raisingmyknights .

Amanda is a mum of two boys and a super creative mum , and her journey is all about learning , creating , exploring and discovering things with her little ones . If you’re always searching for inspiration for fun crafts and activities that stimulate your child’s creativity, learning and development, or simply to keep them out of mischief… then you should definitely head over to her blog . She has everything from craft ideas  to entertainment, and ideas for DIY kids’ activities, that busy modern mums can get into with their kids…as well as some budget-friendly hacks On @craft.set.go

So below is Amanda’s take on parenting , life and everything else between .

1.What was your idea behind starting a blog and how do you think your blog has evolved now ? 

-After becoming a mum I got so consumed with the new role that I felt lost and depressed. I realized I got annoyed and irritated easily and started to vent or react quicker than I normally would.

It all started one DIY morning with Aquarius magazine and vtools we were meant to create a height ruler out of wood.We spent the morning exploring sanding tools and marking the wood. I enjoyed it so much that I lost track of time. I came back home with the wood piece and happier than my usual self. Even though it took me two weeks to complete the finished piece I enjoyed every moment. 

That’s when I realized I seldom get my “me” time. So every Friday I woke up early to a quiet living room and executed a DIY. I was finally making all those pinterest saves and had fun sharing it. As LiL knight grew older we discovered arts and crafts together which slowly made it’s way onto social media /blog.

 I decided it was time to reach other mums who felt like me and maybe encourge them to join in the fun whilst they get some much needed “me-time”. To share ways to keep kids occupied and have when with them creating memories of their own.

Today I have a blog, one stop inspirations/tutorials and so much more.I even managed to create a community with two other mums @craft.set.go to empower other mums to recreate what we once learned and share this with our kids.

2 What is your biggest parenting success ? 

-When I see my knight grabbing a book to read or sitting and painting on his own.Off late I’ve been teaching him to use his words to express various feelings and helping him identify them.Raising emotional intelligent kids is so important in todays world.

3 What is your biggest parenting failure ? 

–When I take on too much I stress myself out. It isnt easy to do it all. My latest obstacle is balancing a baby and a preschooler who both need a piece of me.

4 How do you take a negative comment to a positive post ?

-I’ve been a corporate trainer for almost eight years and the first thing its taught me is how you perceive yourself is not the way the world looks at you. To be your best you need to see yourself through their eyes. Everyone has a right to an opinion separate the facts skip the emotions you might just see the truth.

5 Explain why you post pictures of your kids or why you don’t ?

-I’m not the sort to reveal my entire life on social media. I like a certain part of it to be personal. The same goes with my kids and my spouse. I always ask my son only if he is ok we go ahead. I hope that someday he can look back and see the fun we had together.

6.What are your top 5 achievements in life ?

-Hmm it’s a difficult question…I’ve had small achievements.

1. Managing to figure out motherhood all on my own without having a mom or a dad .

2. Despite daily battles of life I try my best to be positive and not let petty things pull me down , despite the rollercoaster of emotions every now and then .

3. Being on PearlFM radio with my 4 year old .

4. Inspiring people to be the better version of themselves.

5. Sharing my passion through DIY ‘me’ time and mom&me workshops.

7 How much time in a week do you spend on writing and maintaining your blog ?

-I used to have the luxury of spending my mornings writing or creating something artsy/craftsy now with LiL bub it’s a challenge.I do it when I can.

8) Describe your best day as a mom

…It would be a day when I’ve successfully accomplished my to-do list, finished my chores, had no power struggle or temper tantrums from my pre schooler, kids snoring in bed early leaving me with a few minutes to read or scroll through Netflix before I fall asleep.

9)Your top 5 child products must haves ?

-Four cow farm (calendula remedy and tea tree remedy), cetaphyl body cream, pureborne diapers and mustella shampoo

10)What advice can you give a mom to be or a new mommy ?

-No parenting book can fully help each child is different follow your gut feeling it’s 98% accurate lastly make time for you coz only then can you give your best self to your family.

So please do follow her on her on the links below :

BLOG : https://raisingmyknight.com/

INSTA : https://www.instagram.com/raisingmyknights/

YOUTUBE : https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQPrDdxWMoNvQWXmPokfJ9A

Abigail C

It’s been long due to give credit to the mums out there who have inspired me through my journey , we women have to support other women in any way that we can . And I would like to start my “ Mums who inspire Me” series with a super talented mum Abigail C .

Abigail is the mum of two adorable kids , and the lady behind the blog Cuddles & Crumbs ( http://www.cuddlesandcrumbs.com/) which focuses on family and food which Truly reflects her . She is also one the very first friend I made when I started off my blog . Abigail is a very humble , down to earth and an easy person to talk to , she has been very supportive to me and has helped me understand parenting . P.S she is also a Time Out Kids Dubai award nominee for Best parenting blog . So when I first thought about starting off this series I had a few women who I look up to and she is one of them . So from here on I would be asking a few questions to each mum who has inspired me in ways unimaginable and you all can read them on my blog . Every parent is different and every child is different so I hope these super mums would inspire you the way they did to me . Read on below what Abigail answers to my questions :

1)What was your idea behind starting a blog and how do you think your blog has evolved now ? 

◦ Blogging has been my way of venting out the ideas and thoughts on my mind then it evolved to a new mom blog when I had my first child. When we moved to DUBAI it became a food blog where we shared recipes and dining experience. As of the moment, I think the blog has still maintained its two main core which is Family and Food. 

2)What is your biggest parenting success ? 

◦ It’s when I see my kids make good choices and hear from people they have met that they are kind. 

3)What is your biggest parenting failure ? 

◦ The times when I am not being fully present to listen to their stories. When I myself don’t follow the rules we have at home

4)How do you take a negative comment to a positive post ? 

◦ I am a sensitive person, it takes quite some time for me to turn negative to positive. My husband makes me see things in a different light. Once I’ve had time to think it over, I make an effort to recheck the incident and see the good in it. 

◦ For the kids, we ask them to think what could have led to that negative comment. Did the person misunderstood them? What are the things that they could have done differently? Helping them to articulate things that happened makes them more aware of the situation 

5)Explain why you post pictures of your kids or why you don’t ? 

My kids are present in all my social media posts because they play a big role in our story. What I don’t post are photos of them in school uniform, I also tend to post hours after the activity/event. 

6)What are your top 5 achievements in life ? 

◦ Ohh 5! Hmm well

(1) is keeping the kids alive! Hahaha believe me, I myself had doubt because I’m not used to not having extra help around.

(2) managing to prepare meals on my own. The first few months we moved here I was in constant video calls back home so I can prepare a decent meal for the family.

(3) every time my kids complete a school level is an achievement 

◦ I can’t think of anything else hehehe but it’s overall just trying to be the mom my kids need and the wife and friend my husband needs. My achievements no longer mean awards but it’s the precious moments of self discovery as a person and mother/ wife. 

7)How much time in a week do you spend on writing and maintaining your blog ? 

◦ My goal was to publish 1 post monthly which I have not done for February & March. Hopefully, I will get back to writing more on the blog. 

8)Describe your best day as a mom

◦ Starting the day with all of enjoying breakfast together, completing chores, family games and ending the night with a movie. 

9)Your top 5 child products must haves ? 

◦ Thermometer

◦ Essential oils – lavender, peppermint, frankincense, valor and peace & Calming 

◦ Water bottle

◦ Wet Wipes 

◦ Snack box

10)What advice can you give a mom to be or a new mommy ? 

◦ Ask for help and get some rest. I think when we become parents the tendency to “do it all” and “know it all” kicks in that we feel guilty and shy off from asking help. Rest, an hour to just sit down doing nothing can really brighten up the mood, so rest whenever you can. 

-Abigail C. Caidoy.

http://www.cuddlesandcrumbs.com/

Things a daughter needs from her father .

As a daughter myself , it was very hard for me to write this due to my family background this article is more over biased for what my daughter needs from her father . I hope you all men and women both read this and ponder over it .

1. She needs you to be involved.

A daughter needs her father to be actively interested in her life. “Actively interested” does not refer to the second-long conversation that sometimes happens between a father and daughter when he asks how her day went and she replies with one word. A father should participate  in his daughter’s hobbies and activities by displaying interest. For example, if she is interested in collecting stamps, take her to stamp shows. Use the Internet to learn about rare stamps and talk about them. Is your daughter talented in the any sports, such as throw ball ? Whether she wants to play or just enjoys watching the games, become an enthusiastic fan and supporter! Show your daughter that you are interested in her life by learning more about it and trying to become a part of it.

2. She needs you to demonstrate a healthy marriage.

The first relationship a daughter experiences is the one between her mother and father. If her father disrespects his wife with physical or emotional abuse, a daughter might come to believe that is the expected relationship with a husband. However, a father that displays physical affection, respect, and a true partnership with his wife provides an incredible example that his daughter will want to mirror in her own life.

3. She needs you to support her.

Even though a father may not always agree with his daughter, she needs to know you will support her. When a father fully and wholeheartedly supports his daughter, she will develop strong self-esteem and a positive self-image. This doesn’t mean that you always have to agree with her, but show her that while you might not agree with a choice she is making, you will always believe in her as a person and have confidence in her abilities.

4.  She needs to trust you as a confidante.

When your daughter does come to you and discusses personal issues and problems, she needs to know that you will treat them with respect and confidence. They shouldn’t become dinner-table conversation with the rest of the family.

5. She needs your unconditional love.

Just as Allah in Jannah demonstrates unconditional love, fathers on earth need to display this as well. Unconditional love requires that a daughter knows no matter how badly she messes up, her father will be there, not to ridicule and demean but to forgive.

6. She needs a strong spiritual leader.

A father should be the spiritual head of a household and should take charge of his children’s religious education. Pray with your daughter! Don’t be shy about bringing the Allah into your conversations with her.

7. She needs a positive role model.

Many daughters today lack a positive male role model in their life. A father is the first man in a girl’s life that she will intimately know. Her father sets the standard for all other men in her life, and a positive role model will help her choose a good husband in the future. Take a moment for some self-reflection. Are there any habits you need to break? Are there some areas of your own life that could use a “spiritual overhaul” and prayer? When your daughter sees that you are willing to examine your own life and make changes when necessary, you provide the best example she could ever have of accepting responsibility for her actions.

How I knew I wanted to become a full time Mom !

“I will ALWAYS want to work full-time!  I’ll NEVER stay at home with children!”

Yep. I said that prior to children. And now?  I’m eating my words.

I wanted to always work and always wanted to be financially independent , but getting pregnant with my first and only child I decided that I wouldn’t be wise for my to get back to work immediately after her birth . But as time passed I realised that I would miss out on a lot of milestones in my child’s life and it was very important for my presence in her life at this stage .

After six years of university and a master’s degree, I never thought I’d be in this place — but, here we are. I’ve always loved my job. Working in healthcare has been amazing for me, in that I love to help my patients and clients change their lives. My job as a clinical psychologist has been extremely rewarding and fulfilling, in many ways. But, for me, it will never be able to make up for what I felt I was missing out on with my child during those times.

As a parent, I’ve learned to never say never.

Because, most times, you end up eating your words.

How did you decide whether to work or to stay home?

How I knew I wanted to become a full time Mom !

“I will ALWAYS want to work full-time!  I’ll NEVER stay at home with children!”

Yep. I said that prior to children. And now?  I’m eating my words.

I wanted to always work and always wanted to be financially independent , but getting pregnant with my first and only child I decided that I wouldn’t be wise for my to get back to work immediately after her birth . But as time passed I realised that I would miss out on a lot of milestones in my child’s life and it was very important for my presence in her life at this stage .

After six years of university and a master’s degree, I never thought I’d be in this place — but, here we are. I’ve always loved my job. Working in healthcare has been amazing for me, in that I love to help my patients and clients change their lives. My job as a speech pathologist has been extremely rewarding and fulfilling, in many ways. But, for me, it will never be able to make up for what I felt I was missing out on with my child during those times.

As a parent, I’ve learned to never say never.

Because, most times, you end up eating your words.

How did you decide whether to work or to stay home?

How we mummies can find “me time “

Want to make a stressed-out mom laugh? Say something like, “You just need to take more time for yourself!” or “You should get some rest.” Hahhahahha ! How?? When?? And who would keep the Earth turning on its axis for my family while I took this break?

It may seem impossible with all you have on your plate, but taking time to renew and recharge is a good investment that pays real returns. A rested, physically and emotionally healthy woman is a better mom, a better wife, and can accomplish more in fewer hours than the frazzled, drained-dry version of herself.

Everybody needs a break from the demands of daily living. And moms are no exception. Downtime is important. Don’t think of it as self-indulgent… think of it as self-preservation. Giving yourself permission to slow down and relax for a few moments a day, or a few hours each week, will help you gain a fresh outlook and a renewed sense of perspective. So try a few of these 31 Ideas for Mom’s Daily “Me” Time.

1. Go to the movies with your best friend. Have popcorn. If you don’t have friends to go with you it’s still okay , go by yourself .

2. Write something. Poetry, a letter, a short story, a journal, or blog entry.

3. Dance your heart out. I usually start dancing to girls like you by MAROON5.

4. Take a bubble bath with soft music, candles, and definitely some fancy bath bombs.

5. Take a walk in the streets. Or hills , or mountains , or the woods , just do it by yourself or with someone your at ease with .

6. Window shop for ideas of what you’ll wear to your daughter’s wedding – even if it’s 15 years away. Or probably like me google way too much about the things your going to buy for your kid in the coming years .

7. Treat yourself to lunch. A sit-down restaurant, please…you can hit the drive-thru anytime! Or like me click on zomato .

8. Take a nap. A real nap…flopping down on the couch doesn’t count! Get in bed, under the covers. Seriously this one is the best kind of “me” .

9. Buy some pretty underwear…the kind that doesn’t come in a 3-pack. Preferably hit the stores of Victoria’s secrets during the sales in December.

10. Catch up on your reading.  Find a good book or that stack of magazines you’ve been too busy to get to. Or like me just click on YouTube videos and watch this hilarious comic cartoons by EXplosmentertainment .

11. Go for a swim. Clear out all the kids’ gear and hop in…or go to the Y or neighborhood pool. I can neither swim nor my neighbors have pools . So I swim in my own thoughts ( *insert laugh emoji *) .

12. Reconnect with a Friend . Call someone you haven’t talked to in a while. As we grow older and older we kind of stop talking to our friends . It’s always important to adult , so get out there and talk . ( it helps ) .

13. Pull out your wedding album and remember how you felt right before you walked down the aisle. For me I watch my wedding videos and cry over missing my parents too much … hahaha !

14. Take your mom to lunch. She could use a break too! . Yeah probably I do that when my mum is around , but I make sure I do call her twice a day .

15. Pray and read your Quran or devotional or holy book .

16. Get crafty. Try your hand at something new or do a craft you’ve been putting off forever. Getting crafty got me to inspire myself to start my own online store . You’ll never know what could inspire you to do something .

17. Try yoga.  Stretch yourself. Unless you want to just lay down in sleepasana .

18. Go for a drive. Play your favorite tunes, put the windows down, and let the wind blow through your hair and sing at the top of your lungs .

19. Get a pedicure!  Treat your feet and your whole body will thank you! This is something that makes melt . Defiantly need this every week .

20. Have a tea party. Find a tea room and enjoy being pampered. Or probably just dress up for yourself .

21. Watch something at home.  A movie, TV show, whatever! Netflix and chill , Literally ! .

22. Hit some yard sales! Even if you don’t find anything, it can be a blast to browse! Yeah unless you have 20$ in your pocket ! .

23. Go to your happy place. Close your eyes and you’re there. Unless there is a screaming baby in the background , your not there ! .

24. Take a bike ride.  Take a few spins around the block or venture out farther. Or some kind of ride to take you away .

25. Try a new recipe.  Choose something you like without trying to please picky eaters. If your not into cooking then just ask someone to try a new recipe for you .

26. Pick up some flowers.  They’ll brighten your house and brighten your day! Agreed .

27. Go thrift shopping.  See what treasures you can find. I do this quite often and they usually don’t last long but no regrets !

28. Go MIA.  Don’t take any calls for half an hour (unless it’s an emergency, of course). Ha ! I wish . But you could .

29. Get a massage.  It will be the most relaxing 30 minutes of your day! Just 30 mins . It makes a hell lot of difference .

30. Have a play date! Connect with a friend for coffee , play areas , tennis , blah blah blah , anything that will get you out of the house .

31. Do nothing. (Yes, it’s really okay…).

How we chose our daughter’s name .

Today I will be sharing on how we chose our daughters name , it wasn’t easy but it sure was a fun and a bumpy ride . When we first conceived our child we had already hell bent on a name which sounded amazing and which meant ” the princess” and since we knew we were having a girl early on in pregnancy we were so sure we were going to name our daughter that . But as time passed though when my due was close by , we realised though some of our relatives that the name didn’t have any legit meaning in our religion and honestly it sure was very important for me to have my daughter’s name with the right spelling and meaning so in future it wouldn’t cause any problem . It sure was very disheartening and frustrating that 2 weeks before our due date we didn’t have a name for our child.

We got into panic mode and literally both me and my husband went back and forth on the names that we had selected from the Internet and reconfirmed the spelling was meaning of it from one of our close religious teacher . And after much contemplation we finally decided on the name ” Manha ” . Manha means ” reward from Allah” , the name was apt and true to it , our child is truly a reward from god for what ever good deeds we have done . And she proves it to us everyday on how much of a wonderful reward from god she is to us .

In the end all I can say is with my experience that when your selecting your child’s name it’s always best to

1. Have a couple names on hand just in case .

2. Make sure it has proper meaning and the spellings are right .

3. Never rely on the Internet for the name and it’s meaning to be legit , sometimes it can be wrong .

4. Go with your gut instinct when it comes to naming your child , a lot of people might give you unwanted opinions and what not , but by the end of the day it’s your child and it’s your decision . So stay true to it .

The battle

A lot of people that I know have been battling with PCOS , and I have been too , I have been suffering from it from the age of 13 , it’s been a battle which I have been constantly been loosing to . And in case anyone is wondering that PCOS happens to only overweight people , trust me that’s not true , I have always been on the skinner side and been suffering from it .

It’s not been easy to talk about it cause one cannot explain it , I have tried explaining to a few people that I know and they think it’s just a normal thing and tell me to just shake it off . How can one shake off the pain , the cramps , the emotional turmoil , the constant need to feel the weight being lifted off your feet . I cannot express how I am feeling or maybe I am not able to express through my words to another person . There is no treatment for this , it’s life long , if your lucky they might disappear . If your not they’ll be stuck to you forever .

Currently I havnt been able to put forth something on the blog as I havnt had the time or the will to write , I have a nearly year old who takes up most of my time , the rest of my times goes into chores and when I do have a little bit of time I put that into not thinking about the pain and focusing on something productive . I don’t think I have found the peace yet in accepting that there is no cure to this disease but just something that can be managed . If you , my readers can relate to this or have had something that worked for you or helped you please do let me know . And for those who are going through exactly the same thing that I am , give yourself a pat on your back , only the strongest of the women can face and goes through this .