How we mummies can find “me time “

Want to make a stressed-out mom laugh? Say something like, “You just need to take more time for yourself!” or “You should get some rest.” Hahhahahha ! How?? When?? And who would keep the Earth turning on its axis for my family while I took this break?

It may seem impossible with all you have on your plate, but taking time to renew and recharge is a good investment that pays real returns. A rested, physically and emotionally healthy woman is a better mom, a better wife, and can accomplish more in fewer hours than the frazzled, drained-dry version of herself.

Everybody needs a break from the demands of daily living. And moms are no exception. Downtime is important. Don’t think of it as self-indulgent… think of it as self-preservation. Giving yourself permission to slow down and relax for a few moments a day, or a few hours each week, will help you gain a fresh outlook and a renewed sense of perspective. So try a few of these 31 Ideas for Mom’s Daily “Me” Time.

1. Go to the movies with your best friend. Have popcorn. If you don’t have friends to go with you it’s still okay , go by yourself .

2. Write something. Poetry, a letter, a short story, a journal, or blog entry.

3. Dance your heart out. I usually start dancing to girls like you by MAROON5.

4. Take a bubble bath with soft music, candles, and definitely some fancy bath bombs.

5. Take a walk in the streets. Or hills , or mountains , or the woods , just do it by yourself or with someone your at ease with .

6. Window shop for ideas of what you’ll wear to your daughter’s wedding – even if it’s 15 years away. Or probably like me google way too much about the things your going to buy for your kid in the coming years .

7. Treat yourself to lunch. A sit-down restaurant, please…you can hit the drive-thru anytime! Or like me click on zomato .

8. Take a nap. A real nap…flopping down on the couch doesn’t count! Get in bed, under the covers. Seriously this one is the best kind of “me” .

9. Buy some pretty underwear…the kind that doesn’t come in a 3-pack. Preferably hit the stores of Victoria’s secrets during the sales in December.

10. Catch up on your reading.  Find a good book or that stack of magazines you’ve been too busy to get to. Or like me just click on YouTube videos and watch this hilarious comic cartoons by EXplosmentertainment .

11. Go for a swim. Clear out all the kids’ gear and hop in…or go to the Y or neighborhood pool. I can neither swim nor my neighbors have pools . So I swim in my own thoughts ( *insert laugh emoji *) .

12. Reconnect with a Friend . Call someone you haven’t talked to in a while. As we grow older and older we kind of stop talking to our friends . It’s always important to adult , so get out there and talk . ( it helps ) .

13. Pull out your wedding album and remember how you felt right before you walked down the aisle. For me I watch my wedding videos and cry over missing my parents too much … hahaha !

14. Take your mom to lunch. She could use a break too! . Yeah probably I do that when my mum is around , but I make sure I do call her twice a day .

15. Pray and read your Quran or devotional or holy book .

16. Get crafty. Try your hand at something new or do a craft you’ve been putting off forever. Getting crafty got me to inspire myself to start my own online store . You’ll never know what could inspire you to do something .

17. Try yoga.  Stretch yourself. Unless you want to just lay down in sleepasana .

18. Go for a drive. Play your favorite tunes, put the windows down, and let the wind blow through your hair and sing at the top of your lungs .

19. Get a pedicure!  Treat your feet and your whole body will thank you! This is something that makes melt . Defiantly need this every week .

20. Have a tea party. Find a tea room and enjoy being pampered. Or probably just dress up for yourself .

21. Watch something at home.  A movie, TV show, whatever! Netflix and chill , Literally ! .

22. Hit some yard sales! Even if you don’t find anything, it can be a blast to browse! Yeah unless you have 20$ in your pocket ! .

23. Go to your happy place. Close your eyes and you’re there. Unless there is a screaming baby in the background , your not there ! .

24. Take a bike ride.  Take a few spins around the block or venture out farther. Or some kind of ride to take you away .

25. Try a new recipe.  Choose something you like without trying to please picky eaters. If your not into cooking then just ask someone to try a new recipe for you .

26. Pick up some flowers.  They’ll brighten your house and brighten your day! Agreed .

27. Go thrift shopping.  See what treasures you can find. I do this quite often and they usually don’t last long but no regrets !

28. Go MIA.  Don’t take any calls for half an hour (unless it’s an emergency, of course). Ha ! I wish . But you could .

29. Get a massage.  It will be the most relaxing 30 minutes of your day! Just 30 mins . It makes a hell lot of difference .

30. Have a play date! Connect with a friend for coffee , play areas , tennis , blah blah blah , anything that will get you out of the house .

31. Do nothing. (Yes, it’s really okay…).

How we chose our daughter’s name .

Today I will be sharing on how we chose our daughters name , it wasn’t easy but it sure was a fun and a bumpy ride . When we first conceived our child we had already hell bent on a name which sounded amazing and which meant ” the princess” and since we knew we were having a girl early on in pregnancy we were so sure we were going to name our daughter that . But as time passed though when my due was close by , we realised though some of our relatives that the name didn’t have any legit meaning in our religion and honestly it sure was very important for me to have my daughter’s name with the right spelling and meaning so in future it wouldn’t cause any problem . It sure was very disheartening and frustrating that 2 weeks before our due date we didn’t have a name for our child.

We got into panic mode and literally both me and my husband went back and forth on the names that we had selected from the Internet and reconfirmed the spelling was meaning of it from one of our close religious teacher . And after much contemplation we finally decided on the name ” Manha ” . Manha means ” reward from Allah” , the name was apt and true to it , our child is truly a reward from god for what ever good deeds we have done . And she proves it to us everyday on how much of a wonderful reward from god she is to us .

In the end all I can say is with my experience that when your selecting your child’s name it’s always best to

1. Have a couple names on hand just in case .

2. Make sure it has proper meaning and the spellings are right .

3. Never rely on the Internet for the name and it’s meaning to be legit , sometimes it can be wrong .

4. Go with your gut instinct when it comes to naming your child , a lot of people might give you unwanted opinions and what not , but by the end of the day it’s your child and it’s your decision . So stay true to it .

The battle

A lot of people that I know have been battling with PCOS , and I have been too , I have been suffering from it from the age of 13 , it’s been a battle which I have been constantly been loosing to . And in case anyone is wondering that PCOS happens to only overweight people , trust me that’s not true , I have always been on the skinner side and been suffering from it .

It’s not been easy to talk about it cause one cannot explain it , I have tried explaining to a few people that I know and they think it’s just a normal thing and tell me to just shake it off . How can one shake off the pain , the cramps , the emotional turmoil , the constant need to feel the weight being lifted off your feet . I cannot express how I am feeling or maybe I am not able to express through my words to another person . There is no treatment for this , it’s life long , if your lucky they might disappear . If your not they’ll be stuck to you forever .

Currently I havnt been able to put forth something on the blog as I havnt had the time or the will to write , I have a nearly year old who takes up most of my time , the rest of my times goes into chores and when I do have a little bit of time I put that into not thinking about the pain and focusing on something productive . I don’t think I have found the peace yet in accepting that there is no cure to this disease but just something that can be managed . If you , my readers can relate to this or have had something that worked for you or helped you please do let me know . And for those who are going through exactly the same thing that I am , give yourself a pat on your back , only the strongest of the women can face and goes through this .

Alhamdulillah for motherhood

Has anyone here suffered from postnatal depression/baby blues? I don’t know what I have. I love my child but when I nurse her in the nights and do my best to comfort her and she still doesn’t sleep and cries, I will just break down. Sometimes my break down can last hours. I am mostly by myself most hours of the day but Alhamdulilah and my husband is being amazing pillars for me in this time but I feel so guilty he takes over sometimes. I’m usually fine in the day but at night I crash physically and emotionally. I feel as though I’m being ungrateful when in reality I’m so grateful for this gift but sometimes everything can be overwhelming. I can go on crying for hours and then I feel guilty because my husband has to be there for me and my baby. But by the end of it I am happy and I can alhamdulillah that god blessed me with the best reward one can have in their life time.

The master piece

Recently 3 mommy bloggers came up with a wonderful initiative of coming together and creating a platform for mum and their kids to have some fun with art and crafts @crafts.set.go . In my childhood I have always been fascinated with art and crafts and I have been sketching since I was 5 , well when I saw this page I really wanted to be part of it , but how? was the question . My daughter is just 9 months old . But I had amanda help me out with the ideas . And TADA ! It gave me my daughters first master piece . I absolutely love it and will always cherish it until the end of time . Thank you @raisingmyknight @mumzynotebook @craft.set.go .

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Being a mom means taking your own decisions .

Plain and simple. The reason mommy wars exist is because we all want to do the perfectly right thing for each of our children and – when faced with others who do things differently – we feel fear, then insecurity, and then we judge.

If people would just let the above sentence sink in then everyone would stop shaming and hating. And just be happy with their own choices. But people can’t be happy with their own choices if they think their choices are wrong because, after all, the kids are at stake here.

Things I want my daughter to know .

My daughter is in my arms right now , I will and can protect her as long as I will , but I won’t be around forever . So here are few things that I want my daughter to know once she is old enough to understand things .

1. Stand up for yourself and say “BUZZ OFF” when needed :

Say it with your eyes. Say it with your actions. Say it in your head, or say it out loud. Say it by walking away. Say it however you want ,just make sure you say it. Say it when you are overlooked. Say it when you are being disrespected. Say it when you are being judged. Say it when someone doesn’t treat you the way you know you deserve. Say it when someone puts their hands on you in a way that you don’t like. Say it. Make sure the person you are saying it to hears you loud and clear.

2. Know the difference between right and wrong :

when a person tries to correct you , instead of just getting offended think if the person who is correcting you is right or wrong rather than just defending yourself . It’s better to just understand the situation first and then react , it does more good than harm .

3. Indulge :

Buy the shoes, drink the coffee, eat the chocolate, get the massage, use the good dishes, light the candle. Even if you are the only one to enjoy it, do it. There is no point in saving these things just for other people.

4. Don’t worry about the way you look :

Be healthy, practice moderation, and explore different physical activities. Eat real food that makes you feel alive and makes you want to do things that make you feel alive. Donuts aren’t capable of doing that. However, if you enjoy them every once in awhile, and then say, “That was nice, and now I am done with you,” donuts are wonderful. The size of your thighs (or any other body part) is not what matters in this one life we have. The way your skin is , or the way your hair looks , don’t listen to what others when to say . What matters is how we feel when we are here and how we make others feel.Focus on that .

5. Don’t force it :

If a coloured hair and blue lens makes you look like you are doing this just to fit in , just let it go. If you have a friend who makes you feel like shit or betrays your trust, let her go, too. Nothing should feel forced ever—not a dress, not a relationship, not a hobby. Most importantly, don’t ever try to convince someone of your worth.

6. It’s okay to show emotions :

Its okay if your feeling low and sad and you want to cry it all out . Don’t hold back cry , scream, tell them everything your feeling . Move on .

7. Don’t compare yourself to others :

You are amazing. Yes, you really are. I am your mother, so I will always believe this, but I want you to believe it too. Really believe it. Don’t wait for others to validate you. Even if they do but you don’t believe in your own awesomeness, it will never feel real to you.

8. Be happy :

. It can be very easy to believe something bad someone says about us, easier to believe than the compliments. Just remember what you believe is what you become. Love yourself enough to focus on your gifts, your strengths. Don’t beat yourself up just because you make a mistake. Instead, learn from it. Turn it into something positive.

Some of these things might only make sense to you after some hard lessons, and maybe some of these things you will just know. Either way, life is not easy. But in the end it’s all worth it .

A treasure without a price .

She came into this world , right into my arms , placed there by the heavens . She came straight from God . The most precious gift as I look upon her , peace , purity and innocence fill the air around her . Joyful tears as I whisper in her ears ” we are so happy that you are finally here with us , we have waited so long for you ” . She opened her eyes and I am transformed into timeless moment filled with- what life is . For her I feel recognition , unconditional love and complete trust . I am her mother . In that instant i feel and in my heart I know everything that I do know to guide her .

Lying on our bed as she sleeps between her father and I . I count her fingers and toes , those tiny little things . I look for ways she looks like me and Saud she is unique to herself . I have nothing to say but my heart and mind is full of thoughts .

I want to make many good memories with her .

Spend as much as my time with her , showing her my care and love .

Toys and trinkets can’t replace these moments and these are the precious moments that you share .

My daughter will and always will be my treasure without a price .

#JUSTICEFORASIFA

Well for the last few days i have been coming across this perticular hastag #justiceforasifa . So why would I open this link and read what’s in it . Let’s just say having an 8 year old eyes staring dead right into you made me do it , and of course that the little girl shared the same name as my mother . And as I read on i was filled with disgust to the people responsible for it , but at the same time I am afraid . Afraid of what the world has come to , it might not have been my 8 year old but I do have an 8 month old , and the fear runs through my spine , I cannot imagine how her mother must be feeling I absolutely have no words to describe it .

And trust me there is absolutely nothing in this world that would comfort the mother of this child , even the harshest punishment on the people responsible wouldn’t help her mend her broken heart . I do not talk about politics and I don’t want to get into it either , but I saw videos and media outlets publicising this as a political agenda , seriously ! What is wrong with the media and the politicians ? .

Now every mother wouldn’t want to let their daughter out of sight . Do we as mothers would want to forever live in fear? . Do we as mothers want our daughters wings clipped? . Do we as mothers want to have nightmares of what might happen to our daughters cause the justice system is a failure ? .

This incident isn’t the first but if justice is served right it can be the last . I do not want to forever live in fear and no one else deserves to live like that either . What we at least can do is educate our girls and boys about the right and the wrongs . And stand up for what’s right .

My little love bug

As you all know I have an infant and I have been in love with her since the day I saw her , there have been ups and downs since her birth but I love every moment of my motherhood . And finally after all these years I celebrated Mother’s Day with my little love bug . As I child I remember on one of the Mother’s Day I had made my mom some tang orange juice and biscuits and wished her happy Mother’s Day , it wasn’t much back then but I do recollect that memory of mine .

This mother day made me realise one thing that I am 26 years old and I have a child now , literally it’s a shame that I couldn’t have had her earlier in life so I could have spent more time with her . Just think about it ” All those years you could have spent knowing your kid ” . I am sure it would have been as wonderful as I am feeling right now . But everything has its time and wait , so wait it out , don’t stress yourself – what has to happen will happen . Ponder over it – just think of all those years where you could have spent knowing your child more and more . Let me know what you think in the comments section below .